Thanks again both of you
I read the thread suggested and wow I still am amazed at how WRONG things can go! I took notes on several items and will speak to my attorney on Tuesday, as he is out of the office this Monday. With school starting back up soon, I am RUSHED to find answers and pushed for time.
You read correctly, we are in the same state, just 12 hours away. CA is BIG! No way would my 5 kids tolerate that drive made in 2 days and one day in the town! AND really they shouldn't have to. Who wants to sit in the car or tain that long? I hated it last time. I was able to see my nephew on the 24th & 25th of July! HE is amazing and those hours spent with him are what keeps me from flying over the cuckoo's nest
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SADLY, I have met the fmom and she was rude, arrogant, and shook my hand like I was the DEVIL! Little did I know when I met her that she wanted my nephew or that she had been in league with my estranged mother. I was UNPREPARED for that. I guess I wouldn't have done it differently, I TRY so hard to be kind and generous. I am NOT a bad person. I am not trying to STEAL anyone's child! From the very beginning I have only pushed to be first choice IF my sister cannot provide a good home for my nephew.
I am sorry that the fmom wants my nephew. I am sorry but family, bfamilies should come first. I know why he has the white patches in his hair, I know the first year of his life, have the photos, the memories, I am biologically connected to this little 2 year old. I love him as my own. I know that this ffamily KNEW, and KNOW about me. I have sent photos, letters, cards, drawings from my children to my nephew. Along with gifts and a digital frame that plays 55 photos of our family WITH him! She knows of me very well and my intentions to have him with us.
I will find out about court dates, ask my sister to sign a release form so the CW can speak to myself and attorney, speak to my nephew's attorney, ask for the CASA worker, and file every single paper I can to get him.
Thanks for the definition of ICPC. There is so much to learn and so very little time. They (CPS) planned it that way too! I am taking my anger and channeling it into action. I will write & call every single person above CPS all the way to Bush if I need to. I plan on more visits with nephew but it is going to be tough to get the time again. Flying is NOT my favorite thing and the cost is starting to multiply. BUT I will do it
I can PROVE that I have been involved since the VERY beginning and NO ONE else can do that. I have a few things on my side, like my kinship care approval.
Tomorrow I will begin the paperwork for state adoptions approval here in my county, I will go as fast as I can. With input from you KIND and generous people I can do this
Also anyone know of rules about fparents having contact WITHOUT CPS approval for a fc and bgrandma?? This is still an issue with me. I CANNOT see how that is FOR RU when the bgrandma is estranged and seeing the ffamily & child??? It does NOT seem right. Information was shared, photos of my family, of my visits, etc. with an estranged bgrandma! Call me crazy but that seems to be VERY wrong and the ffamily is working AGAINST the RU process by doing that.
