[mommamarci]

Hey, I will join too!!!

Here is my story: We have a fully open adoption with C's bmom. But, it is in theory only... I have consistently sent letters and pics as I said I would. But we went through spells with no other contact. A few months back she started calling again and we are talking every 3-4 weeks now. She claims to ahve amiled pcis to us yesterday. (I have been told this before and never received anything...) And she says she wants to see us. (I have also heard this before.) I feel like it is different this time. Like she is really going to follow through. She says when we finalize Spencer's adoption (in just a little over a month!!) she will see us. We will be minutes away from her. Plus she says she is going to come to the hospital at some point during Cameron's stay. I hope it is different this time. I hope she follows through. I hope. I hope.

On the other hand, we have no contact with Spencer's bmom. I send monthly letters and pics. I have no idea if she opens them. We have never met or spoken. I don't even have a picture of her. That is HARD! Way harder than I thought it would be. I have given her our address and phone number. Hopefully one day she will change her mind about it.