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Originally Posted by cantbuymeluv
 I have an ongoing case with my nephew. I posted before that I am trying to get my nephew, now 2 years old, out of foster care! He has been in system since November 2007  I applied EARLY December 2007 for kinship placement, jumped through ALL hoops, got my home approved FINALLY in May 2008! We are dealing with the same state but 10-12 hours away. NOW the DUMB DUMB DUMB CPS workers KNEW that I was trying to get my nephew, I kept GOOD records on my phone calls, emails, and letters! THANK GOD!!!!!! I also sent letters & packages to my nephew through CPS and have confirmation #'s of delivery. I have ASKED over and over again HOW can I help him, what else can I do to get him here ASAP? Of course they assured me that I am / have done EVERYTHING possible! Being ignorant, I believed them! NOW we are at the point where my sister, the mother, is losing services and a plan is being made by adoption services for adoption, SO my previous approval is NOT good enough! WE now need another evaluation BUT WTheck? THEY KNEW this!!! WHY WHY WHY did they not tell me sooner? OMGOSH!!! I am so MAD, they have a plan and they want my time to run out and then be justified. This baby stayed in my home with me and my family almost the first year of his life! WHY? I have retained an attorney in that town, gotten my sister & the father to agree to allow me to adopt him! SO the state adoptions THERE told me even with the agreement of both parents BEOFRE TPR that I STILL have to have state adoptions home approval and be licensed! THAT takes time & I HAD time before.
So my question is anyone else ever in this situation? WHAT else can I do? My attorney understands and is helping me, BUT I am staying VERY proactive!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot lose him!
ON another note...........in CA anyone know of a good GOOD in house rehab. My sister has a drug addiction coupled with mental issues. (our mom is awful and evil, REALLY she is) I not only WANT to save my nephew but I also want my sister to get help before she gets pregnant again or ends up dead. She cannot live with me, but I want to point her in the right direction not just dump on her more by having her child. YES this is her fault but sometimes we all need help, we all need to learn how to understand ourselves and do better  She cannot afford to pay for one and I am not able to pay thousands more on rehab, lawyers, my kids, etc? I am not superman LOL
THANKS again!!!! I love reading ideas and REALLY love when they are state specific  |
We got our relative out of foster care in Florida. We live in Hawaii. We had to do an ICPC--the whole situation was just horrible. Look at the thread Reunification with relatives on the foster to adopt forum under foster care & adoption. hkollen is another poster who had this same situation--
My best advice is a good attorney in the state where your nephew is--get one now, do a motion to intervene, and get the bparents to sign TPR for an adoption by you. If they haven't been TPR'd, they can do this. The judge won't have to accept it, but it will make your intent to care for this child clear and also make clear what the bparents want.
Sorry to ask, but are the foster parents looking to try and adopt this child? That can be another hurdle for you--
Good luck and don't give up!