I know that the main goal in fostering is reunification with parent and child, but why do I feel like as a foster mother I get the short end of the stick. I feel like the state bends backwards to help the parents and makes me jump through hoops. I have a precious baby (3 weeks old) and I've had her since the day after she left the hospital. I have made as many accomodations for her as I know how. I've taken off of work so that she can get to the doctor to have extra test ran etc. It's not been a problem. The problem I have is this, the baby was born in another county, and I've been told that unless I can make arrangements to pick her up on visitation day, she will be removed from me and put in a foster home in her county. I have bent over backwards to find someone who can help me with her pick up on visitation day, but I did ask the worker if we could move visitation to a day when I'm off work, and she has yet to respond to me. The baby is a long term placement, and I don't want her to leave, but I think the worker/state needs to be more open to working with me also. Why do we jump through hoops and try to please a parent who obviously can't or doesn't want to be a parent? I thought the parent was supposed to work and make an effort to show they are ready to have their child back and to raise them. What should be a happy and blessed moment for me is now a stressful one. It just doesn't seem fair to me.
