[Mom2Colin]

Thanks to everyone who has posted their personal experience. It definitely shreds some light. My personal story, while not necessarily relevant, is that I work in a case manager capacity within a state agency. Getting a month or more off, even if the weeks aren’t in a row, is nearly impossible. (Clients’ lives don’t stop because mine has to.) My husband, an attorney in a small firm, can’t take that kind of time off. (If the firm doesn’t bring in clients, he has no income.) We have a limited extended family, none of which are able to care for our young son for an extended period of time– either due to their own family situations or health reasons. It’s not about “making a choice to make it happen.” It’s a logistical impossibility at this point.

I can’t help but think how bizarre it is that there are children who need homes and people who have homes to provide, yet a situation of logistics is all that keeps them apart. In our case, we’re interested in older child adoption. I’m a firm believer in a country’s sovereignty and right to legislate the adoption process. Even so, requiring lengthy in-country stays for court dates, lengthy meetings, and multiple interviews. It appears to me they are a waste of time and energy for both the families and the courts.

I can’t say what the future holds. Perhaps our situation will change or a new possibility will present itself. Thank you for allowing me to ask questions and perhaps, vent a little. I’ll continue to ask questions and research all of the possibilities. In time, I’m hopeful a child who needs a home will find our family with one to provide.

Thanks
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