Well, we haven't tried to reach out to her as of yet. We will have Austin's readoption finished in the next few months. Once he is an official US Citizen I plan on doing that. It just makes me nervous to do it without having the security of his citizenship. My husband's family is from Guatemala so we plan on visiting next summer.
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Originally Posted by connorsmommy1999
this came up a LOT on an email list that I belong to.
I think it's VERY VERY important that you understand that some birthmoms have later said that those reports arent true. ---these are birthmoms who were 'found' later by the adoptive family ---
Apparently it's 'easier' for them to say that because then no one questions their decisions, belittles them, shames them etc.
One AP said she went to Guatemala and talked to the birthmom and that birthmom said it's just "known" that saying you were raped makes it easier to deal with the family court interview - because some moms are humiliated by questions like "why dont you want to keep your child?" etc. It also solves the problem of having to talk about the birth father.
On our email list there was story after story about this very situation and the conclusion they came to is that it's very likely not the real story about how the child was conceived. --I'm NOT saying that rape doesnt happen just that the situation down there creates a scenario where it's much easier on these moms to say they were raped.
Are you planning on staying in contact with the birth mom?
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