[gwenrenee007]

Sometimes birth mother's say that they were raped because they feel like they have to in order for them to be precieved as "loose women". Not to say it doesn't happen and not to diminish rape when it does, but I would take the info with a grain of salt. You could always tell your ds something like, "this is the info we have this is what it say, but we don't know if this is true." We found out some disturbing things about dd's birth father and we are going to do a search for her birth mother and I am hoping that is one of the things she shares - whether or not that info is true. You could always search ds's birth mother to be sure.

People's opinions vary on whether or not to tell your child, but I feel like it is their information, not ours, so they should know everything we do.