[HappyMomAnna]

I have never had to do what you need to do and cannot imagine how hard this is for you.....

I am not sure how to talk to her---I guess It would depend a lot on what she is expecting and thinking? Is she believing she is being adopted--or has that been kept out of the discussion so far?

If she believes she is being adopted then I suppose this is going to be very painful. She is not at an age where it would be a good idea to tell her, 'someone will adopt you' because that might not really come true for her.....

If she has not been made to think that at last she has a forever family then you might be surprised how easy it is---most of these children don't expect to stay -- even if there is an adoption plan they know we change our story a lot--so part of the hard part of transistion is making them believe this is not going to change. Most of these kids take a long time to trust the situation...anyway so she may handle this a lot better then you do.