[Vogi2002]

Isn't the whole point of this thread to talk about how not EVERY OA is so difficult & so much to it??

I don't know why people are arguing that OA isn't the only way...that's not even part of the thread. I know we can spin off on subjects but does EVERY SINGLE THREAD about open adoption have to turn into a battle?? Can't people involved in an OA just have a chance to discuss it without having to defend thier choices?

OA can work if you choose it, and when it does your life is not consumed by it. It just is, like having another friend to share everything with. Not every conversation is filled with emotion, and not every time you get together is it a battle of emotion (even for some bparents). Is there emotion? Yes, but it's not a saga every time. There isn't an emotional pull as to who is mommy and your place in the life...every OA isn't so INVOLVED.

I have one that IS, and one that's not. So there are times that it happens to be drama filled...but there are plenty that aren't.