|
Hi Kitten:
I would encourage you, as hard as it will be, to try to slow down. It sounds like you may be way ahead of your Bmom in dealing with things. In my reunion with my Bdad, it feels like I have always been about six months ahead of him as faar as the realization and dealing with the emotions that come up. I don't think it would hurt to ask again for pictures and medical information. Since, it does seem that your Bmom has some issues about your relinquishment, she may just be overwhelmed by her feelings and simply just forgets about the request. Asking again, surely wouldn't hurt anything.
As far as your Bfather, you might consider holding off in asking your Bmom about him for awhile. Go on searching on your own, but maybe keep it to yourself for now if it upsets your Bmom. She is probably dealing with enough at the moment, and may not be able to handle your Bfather's role in a reunion with you? Only your Bmom can answer that, and you may have to just feel her out when it comes to your Bfather. My Bmom did not want me to find my Bfather. I still do not understand why it was such an issue for her other than she had apparently lied about a lot of things. She freaked out when I told her I had contacted him, and she and I had been reunited for about 16 years at the time I contacted him. She still isn't dealing well with the fact that my Bfather and I have reunited. My two reunions and my relationships with them, I keep completely separate for my own sanity.
I would also encourage therapy. Long story short, I couldn't have survived the past year without my therapist.
|