[stinky_kitty]

I'm currently on the other side of things and I'll just say that I honestly don't think reunion is ever easy. My reunion with my firstmom went fairly smoothly, but it was still at times difficult, mostly emotionally.

I guess if I were in your shoes I would just be upfront and ask her again for the information, and if she ignores your request again I would ask her why. I tend to be on the blunt side most times (not always a good thing!!).

It's hard to say what she is dealing with emotionally, it takes some people longer than others to work through it all. However, I don't see why she hasn't been able to provide you with medical information??

It might help for you to see a therapist. I saw one a few years ago due to issues I was having regarding my son's adoption and it was one of the best things I've ever done for myself. It was so nice to be able to talk to someone who could listen to me from an unbiased standpoint.

Good luck with your journey!!