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Originally Posted by Vogi2002
Reading the boards sometimes you hear these wonderful bparents talking and you think "maybe that is how my child's bparents feel" and you give them another chance, when in fact you need to realize that each person is different, and sometimes you have to trust your instincts / thoughts. I'm not saying this is always the case...just that there are times when I think aparents need to say "enough is enough" lay down boundaries and lines, and stick to them.
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i hear you. everyone is so different, and every situation is unique. the more i read and write posts on this site the more i almost feel like it's hard to have any one solid opinion on anything regarding this process. so many variables, so many different people with different perspectives/needs/expectations etc. i will say that imho, probably the most important factor in making and maintaining a successful open adoption are boundaries. setting them, understanding them, respecting them, renegotiating them when necessary....it's a hard thing to do between 2 grown people, let alone 3, 4, 5 or more, then add in age variables and high emotions....and you get, lol... open adoption, in all it's good intentions and imperfect realities.
best of luck to everyone in navigating through it!