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Originally Posted by Stormster
How can one have too much empathy? I just think it's risky to start "gaging" it kwim?
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Well for instance, when the bparents are disrespectful, negative, and unhealthy yet the aparents allow the OA to continue and "put up with it" just because they are the birth parents.
There are times when ALL agree that an OA should not be continued (or at least direct contact...sometimes even updates), and as aparents we have to remember that our kids come first. We don't want our kids to be around unhealthy people or relationships, and sometiems people are just selfish...
Reading the boards sometimes you hear these wonderful bparents talking and you think "maybe that is how my child's bparents feel" and you give them another chance, when in fact you need to realize that each person is different, and sometimes you have to trust your instincts / thoughts. I'm not saying this is always the case...just that there are times when I think aparents need to say "enough is enough" lay down boundaries and lines, and stick to them.
This is personal experience, not directed at anybody.