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Leigh - Didn't read the middle pages of the thread...honestly I don't have time as I have laundry! LOL
I think extremes are posted on the site....good extremes and bad. I think there are some times when an aparent CAN have too much empathy for bparents, and vice versa.
OA has rules....or boundaries...that each side should abide by, they are simple and can be summed up with one word - respect.
Now, having said that I have one adoption that is wonderful, and very "easy". One adoption...not so much, my first. So if I had just went through my "easy" adoption...OA would be easier for me...but going through my other adoption, I know it can be more complicated.
BUT I do feel like OA seems to be represented as more of a "battle" here than anything else. Probably because rarely do people post about thier OA if they have no problems to post about!!!
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