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I am a birth father. I searched for and found my son about three years ago. Our reunion fulfilled a life-long goal and made me whole! My son expressed that hearing the story of his "beginnings" has had a positive effect on his life. We share many interests and have done a number of things together, but we don't try to be each other's family. He has parents, I have kids, we have a friendly relationship. It's more than I deserve, and I acdept it as a gift in my life.
I also contacted the birth mother when I was preparing to search. Her reaction to me was cordial but cool. She did give me some helpful information, but later was quite angry at me for actually going through with a search. The good news is that even though she wanted no further contact with me, she did decide to have her own reunion with our son, so he now has both birth parents in his life.
I've been participating in these forums since last January, and I'm glad to see a recent increase in participation by birth fathers. pob1218, please keep us posted or continue to ask questions. All the time and effort that goes into a search is worth it when you get to meet your son!
Rich
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