LilyPadJumper
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I feel bad that I poured out my grief on to them and opened up how hard I'm dealing with all of this. I recognize that I'm allowed to be feeling all of the things I'm feeling, especially since Z spent two weeks with me after his birth. But if they ask me how I'm doing and bring up the grieving process, how far do I go? I was respectful and made sure to let them know that while I'm sad, I know Z is in the right place. I just feel bad for burdening them.
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You have done something that is beyond difficult.. and you have an absolute right to your grief..
The good the bad and the really bad..
Stay with the grief and do not block it.. I blocked it.. I stopped it.. I never spoke about it..
And it stayed in me for a long long time..
Melody Beattie has written a new book.. I am going to get it.. its called..
The Grief Club: The Secret to Getting Through All Kinds of Change
She writes, There's a secret to get through loss, pain and grief. If we're alone we can't see who we are. When we join the club, other people become the mirror. Through them, we see ourselves and gain an understanding of what we're going through. Then slowly, real slowly, we learn to accept who we see in the mirror. Then you become the mirror for them; by being honest about who you are, you'll help them learn to love and accept themselves.
So welcome to the club... You are not alone..
Jackie