[Tazer]

Hi Layfayette...I'm a B-mom in reunion with my daughter for the past 3 years and while I certainly can't speak for your mother I just want to share my thoughts with you.


IMO the first rule of reunion should be MAKE NO ASSUMPTIONS. One of the first mistakes I made in attempting to contact my daughter was assuming she knew she was adopted when she didn't. I even put off initiating contact for months after she became of legal age b/c having left my info at the agency I assumed that if she wanted contact she could and would have by then.

Even though you have come to the realization that she only placed the females, IMO you need to ask and allow her to explain why this was the case. As awful as it sounds maybe there was a reason that prevented her from safely raising females; were there abuse issues etc aimed only at females? Don't assume she didn't raise you simply b/c you are female, since that alone isn't rational. At least get an explanation.

I hear your anger and in time it might be totally justified, I just want to suggest that you wait before you make l decisions based on your feelings. If you end contact now, BEFORE YOU KNOW THE TRUTH you may never get the answers you seek and your anger and depression will just fester and grow.

I have met my daughter and I am currently trying to figure out if I should hang on or let go but all of my reasons are based realities. I have been on a fact-gathering mission with her from day one, and it continues. While I don't know if she and I will remain in reunion I am still much better off had we never entered into reunion. Take care of yourself...Tracy