i also want to add that a HUGE part of my healing process has been learning how to be my own mother. therefore, when faced with an emotionally laden decision about relationships/boundries/life choices, i ask myself "if MY DAUGHTER was in this situation, what would my advice be to her be?"
for some reason, i seem to be able to access more self compassion and healthy boundries when i present things to myself in this scenario. it can help to look at a photo of yourself as a child when doing this.
and if this all sounds too crazy, i apologise, because i'm kind of a california hippie girl at this stage in life.
