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Old 08-09-2008, 02:23 PM
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Originally Posted by mommy2fiveplus
Relatives will continue to think they are the best place for "thier" children, that fosters who adopt are trying to block RU, that fosters "pick and choose" the healthy "perfect" kids to adopt (like relatives don't abandon sick kids in care) and that foster parents some how see their foster children as "less" than thier bios, if they even have any.


Actually, if you do some research on ffamilies vs relatives abandoning "sick" kids or abused kids you'll find that the vast majority that do that are NON relatives...relatives have a higher percentage of keeping the kids in their homes and trying the hardest.
Maybe that's because it's easier to give up on a non relative VS a relative? I don't know but take a look at this study:
http://www.clasp.org/publications/is..._care_good.pdf

And far as being better then each other I don't think that was the reason for this thread. I think it's more that biofamilies are feeling ffamilies are not wanting to work with RU and biofamilies when they do come forward and are cleared to take the kids which causes a harder transition for the kids.
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MAPP class completed: 9/30/2006
Home study completed: 11/2006
Home study submitted for approval: 11/14/2006
Foster License approved! 11/22/2006
Flew to visit Niece for 3 wks 3/2007
Judge rules placement with us 5/2007

Leaving to bring Niece home 6/15/2007
Niece is offically part of our family 6/30/2007
TPR Bio Dad by default 8/9/2007
TPR Bio Mom voluntary surrender 8/9/2007
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Adoption finalization date 7/18/2008! YEAH






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