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Old 08-09-2008, 01:53 PM
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Originally Posted by lovemy6
I get to be reminded that I am NOT the bio mom of my kids, that there is another woman that my kids call mom, that there is another woman my kids love as mom. I would rather keep my head in the sand and not be reminded of this until my kids are 18, thank you very much. Visits are very stressful for me. I wish they weren't. I honestly really like their bios, it's not that I don't. It's just that it's hard to take them to "santa" twice a year and then hear about it for weeks after. I'm selfish. I wanna be their one and only.

I appreciate your candor on this particular point. This is what I'm most concerned about regarding OA (I know I would react to visits just as you describe here).