[mommytoEli]

sometimes foster parents need more support than they get, sometimes relatives teach children how to sabotage the placement in hopes that the kids will be so bad that the cw's will move the children....back into their care, the child may have emotional problems or issues that are exacerbated by another child in your home with similar issues. these are all first hand experiences i had with one child. sadly, i gave up. looking back, i know i could have done it...it was only 2 more week. but at the time, i thought i'd die. i think that there are lots of things that can be done to save a placement, but i think everyone is just too busy. and foster parents get overwhelmed....this is an emotional job.

that being said....i adopted 2 kids who were in umpteen placements before coming here....they were a nightmare! lol.....but for some reason....it clicked, we clicked, and we found a way to make it work....i think sometimes success or failure is made in something as simple as a personality match/conflict. again..i think more could be done.i think if there were more thought into placement, and more support, it would probably happen less.