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I am sorry this has been so painful and horrific. I know it is hard.
I am almost afraid to say this next part, because I am NOT trying to defend them just because I am also an amom. BUT sometimes there are 2 sides to a situation.
So here goes, and I may be offbase here, but in terms of your final straw, the signing of the final papers--
Their lawyer/counselor probably told them to say there is no open adoption in place, because if there was no legal one set up, he would want them to 'protect' themselves , just in case.
Now, of course, you would ,in finding out they denied OA, would feel betrayed , and would act out , it makes perfect sense. But in doing so, it makes the aparents feel they were right in signing the papers in that way.
So, if you really want to try again, you may find that they actually do want, and did want some level of openness all along, but they were just listening to their lawyer. Most a-parents want their a-kids to have some contact with first familiy. It is in the best interest of the child. Maybe time has healed some of the sensitive wounds, and you can all reevaluate things.
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