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Originally Posted by cjrogers
Why can't you take an FMLA leave - even a short one for a few weeks? FMLA does not designate primary vs. non primary care giver - both my dh and I took FMLA together. And how would your employer know that you are not the primary caregiver? Just curious.
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My "scheduled" job is a professor and so there's not really a way to take a few weeks off without messing up the whole semester--we dont' really do substitutes or whatever, so it's a whole semester or nothing. I'm not really too upset about the lack of official leave. I still get a full month off during winter break and I AM taking our version of parental leave which means my research, mentoring, advising, and committee requirements are relaxed so the only real committment I have is my teaching which is only 2 days a week--hardly a problem!--but since I basically lost this whole past year to stressing about the adoption I plan to spend most of the "break" working quite a bit to make up for that.
DH works in the same general environment--they'll know he's gone, so unless I can prove he's an imcompetant dad OR if he goes back to school or work before December, my break from the official teaching won't happen in the spring as we had thought. I do appreciate all the feedback. We're now planning to make some serious "mommy and jorge" time in the routine while DH takes DD as well as vice versa so both our kids get plenty of individual parent time. Plus family time and time for ourselves...Hmm...anyone got those extra hours we're all looking for? LOL.
