[cjrogers]

Congrats on Jorge!!!

I stayed at home for 4 mos - and my ds preferred me, now that I am working full time, he prefers whichever one of us is closest/around him! But he sure loves his daddy. And my dh does more caretaking in general and more playtime.

It all balanced out. I had issues with jealousy at some point, but realized I'm a pretty lucky person to have a dh who is so "into" caretaking and whatnot.

As many books as I've read on experts talking about betrayal in adoption - I don't buy it. Unless the separation was extremely traumatic, they were abused or the child was older, I think most children under 2 are fairly resilient.

Why can't you take an FMLA leave - even a short one for a few weeks? FMLA does not designate primary vs. non primary care giver - both my dh and I took FMLA together. And how would your employer know that you are not the primary caregiver? Just curious.

CJ