E's birth mother's close friend was SA'd by her Afather and this same lovely guy introduced E's birth mother to drugs at the age of about 12. This friend was mortified that L placed her children. I can't imagine the utter betrayal of finding out the child you placed was abused in ANY way. I mean verbally, physically etc....if I placed my child and found this out there was SA I would lose my mind.
We are currently doing our will and I fully intend to let E's birth mother know the details we have outlined for his care including the name of our attorney should she have any questions. There will be stipulations in the will that my sister will have to keep E's adoption open. I hope she can handle that. We are talking about it this weekend. Sorry I veered a bit 
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