My daughters Mom is a single Mom, so the upside is divorce isn't a possibility at this point
If Cupcake's Mom were to fall ill or have a major medical problem I would never be upset, but I would be scared, worried, and so terribly concerned for both her and Cupcake. I can't imagine that I would blame her in any way - she wouldn't have asked for it!
Now - if something happened to CUPCAKE, all bets are off. I would have a VERY hard time dealing with this. If she got very sick I hope I wouldn't
blame her Mom, but if she got sick and her Mom didn't tell me about it I would have a hard time...I'm not talking a cold, I'm talking severe illness, hospitalization, etc. I just think that I would like to be kept in the loop on that - not to make any parenting decisions or anything, but just out of respect.
And if she abused Cupcake? I can't even begin to imagine what that would be like or how I would deal. And to be honest I don't want to.