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I have been the steadily working parent since Curtis came home - and I will not sugar coat it, although he is definitely attached to me, he has a clear preference for his daddy much of the time. I believe that is normal but I admit to some pangs of jealousy.
When Curtis first came home, I was able to take 8 weeks parental leave. Then I went back to work full time (meaning 10-12 hour days). DH was finishing up his masters in education that spring semester (just 2 classes, both on the same night) and then it was summer, so he was home alone with Curtis during the working day for 4 months. DH started teaching in September but did not like the district and has been home since June and for the foreseeable future.
Generally, when he is hurt or scared he looks to daddy first and I will do only if daddy is not available. He will play with either of us (at times he wants daddy and at other times he wants mommy to play) and has no issues as to which of us feed him, bathe him or put him to bed.
One thing I advise - set aside some guaranteed one-on-one time every day if you can. Curtis is an early riser so I get up extra early and have started coming into work on time (instead of the hour early I used to arrive before he came home) so we have a guaranteed slightly over 2 hours together just the two of us every day (from 5:30-7:45 am). I give him his first cup of milk and massage his legs or give him a back rub while he drinks. Then I change his diaper and we play for the rest of the time. I cant get home from work before 8pm and he goes to bed by 8:30 so night does not work for us but probably makes more sense for most people. Even if DH gets up early, he has been instructed not to come downstairs and disturb us during this time. And of course I do more on the weekends.
Again, Curtis is attached to me and it was not especially difficult because I am his mom and was not there full time.
I hope and expect things will work out well for Jorge and you.
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