[robandjulie]

After all that debate on when I should take my semester leave and deciding it would be Dec - August...DH quit his job this week to be a SAHD. It was a long time coming and we're both very comfortable with the decision--my income far exceeds his, has more job security, and is more flexibile; plus he was miserable and had been for a long time. So starting with our visit trip, he'll be the primary parent. The only draw back is that since I can't claim "primary caregiver" I no longer qualify for leave.

So this is all pretty good. Except I am worrying about how Jorge may or may not bond with me if he has his daddy all day and night. I've read that the bonds to mom are the ones more likely to be resisted since they've percieved "betrayals" by birthmoms and foster moms as they've moved through the system and so they more readily bond with dad. In the majority families, this is balanced by the fact that mom is the primary caregiver or the one on leave and so by design they have to learn to depend on mom.

Anyone else have a SAHD & working mom setup? How did attachment go? Did you feel like you had trouble getting that relationship going with your child??

TIA