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Originally Posted by DebCsMom
I've had that said to me a few times. Usually I just say, "Yes I am their REAL mom".
We have 2 bio & 3 adopted. I get asked things like, "What do your real children..." Again I just say, "They are ALL my REAL children".
Sometimes I get asked,"What does their real mother....." I say, "Well, their BIRTH Mother...."
This one I love, "Are they all related?" DUH, you idiot!!!!  I just cringe on the inside & say, "They have been since birth" or "They are now"
Get this one, OHHHH you'll love it!!!
One woman said to me, "You need to take care of your OWN children first" referring to our bio children!!!!!!!!! OH YEA! That got me going! You should have heard the rest of the conversation!!!! It started out ugly before she made that comment & it was the first time I actually got really upset & raised my voice at a comment like that.
My Mother In Law is great, too. She says she has 2 Grandchildren & 3 adopted ones.   What an idiot!! DOn't even get me started on her!!! SHe says that when she even admits she has more than 2 Grandchildren (our 2 bio)!!!!!!!
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I have 6 grandchildren, I was the birth coach for the 3 girls. My grandsons live in CA I wasn't there when they were born. I was not there for my oldest grandson's birth either but I saw him soon after.
Now, the division. One of the girls is my bio grand, I am raising her. Two are stepgrands and we had custody of the youngest for 4 years. The oldest boy is the child of my youngest son's friend, she was raped. My son is gay, but he has been this boys father his whole life. They shared costody, though he is not the legal father, he is D's father. My two grandsons in CA are my birthson's boys.
They have two grandmothers, both of whom are very real.
My birthson and I were reunited when both boys were babies. My bson was 33 at reunion. We were all looking for each other, he was looking, his mom was looking and I was looking.
I don't understand idiots who say such things to adoptive moms, but then they say rude nasty things to birthmothers too.
You had a right to be angry and a right to express it.
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