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Originally Posted by thanksgivingmom
Yet it seems agencies push OA as, "birthmoms know their kids okay so they can move on and HEAL!"
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You know, my youngest son's firstmom said this just the other day...she said that the agency said such great things about OA that they never really prepard her for how emotionally exhausting it would be, even now...
And I remember telling the agency years ago that I thought they were doing adoptive parents and birthparents (not to mention the child) a disservice by not giving the full spectrum - good and bad - of OA, especially since this is what they singularly promoted...and they basically said well, if we talked of the negatives or hardships, we wouldn't be able to get anyone on board with it...
Ok, I guess I see where they were coming from - but what about their obligation to the very people who are coming to them for guidance?
Sorry to get off topic, but it's fresh in my mind after my convo with "C" the other day...