[Aminah]

Originally Posted by Boulderbabe

I'm at a loss to explain why you would continue using such hostile and hurtful words.

You may not agree that there are cases that have been maliciously handled. Well, I'm involved with one that has. I have several caseworkers (b/c of interstate issues) and a lawyer, and the common consensus is that my CW in PA messed up (you can include the agency solicitor for this CW in that opinion).

Originally Posted by Boulderbabe

Most of the research I have seen says that attachment issues trump race and culture issues.

I would like to see this research. Furthermore, it's not an issue of one trumping the other. It's a matter of how to address all of the issues. With that said, I can speak from experience from being jerked from one home to another that attachment does not trump race and culture. I'm not saying that race and culture trump attachment either.

Originally Posted by Boulderbabe

This is why I think it is absolutely imperative for birth family to step forward as early as is humanly possible, within days of the child entering foster care.

...And when the bfamily does step forward and the agency ignores them, and the process turns into months, then years, does the child still remain with the ffamily? My family has been through this twice. It isn't as simple as stepping forward early on in the process.

Originally Posted by Boulderbabe

You have W, and you have to make a life for him that promotes his emotional well-being.

I'm not sure if you read my first post, but I don't have W. I'm still going through the process. As I said before, it's a long and slow process. I anticipate that he'll be moved in the next three months.

If you can think of any other way to incorporate the ffoster family in W's life, I'd greatly appreciate it. That really was the premise of my second post. I certainly don't want to shut out the ffamily. I was hoping to get some experiences from other people on how best to incorporate them. Maybe I should ask the ffamily directly.