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Originally Posted by RobinKay
I am going to be blunt here--just cut it off. He is just over one year old, he is happy with you, not having attachment problems, correct? This family is not supportive of this child and his new family. Contact right now is about the fparents, not the child. We are supposed to make decisions based on what is best for the child.
You don't need this, M does not need this. Say goodbye, put some pictures in an album for the questions he may ask someday, and go live your life with your child.
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Robin, if you wonder why foster parents are so afraid of biofamily, this is it. To have the child that we've loved as our own ripped away, and then to have the birth family cut off contact forever over small perceived slights-----well, that's every foster parent's worst nightmare.
I think if we're going to do what is best for kids, we have to stop being so suspicious, stop overinterpreting every little action searching for evidence of a slight, and work harder to build supportive networks around kids. And I mean that for foster families as well as birth families.