Quote:
|
Originally Posted by Boulderbabe
But I can tell you from my own experience that it is very, very hard to care for a child day in and day out and not to be enormously attached to them; as attached as you would be to a child you gave birth to yourself. Everything about human biology and culture encourages us to feel this way about the kids we care for. So for the foster family, I imagine that losing your (now-) son was like losing their own child---a horrible gut-wrenching experience that I wouldn't wish on anybody. I know I felt that way about my own foster, now adopted, kid. After three months, if somebody had taken him from me, I don't know if I would have survived.
|
I think we all can agree that the ffamily does become attached, afterall they loved the child as their own child. However unless the child is free for adoption then RU can happen. There is always that possibility. I think the main issue is allowing the kids to move forward without guilt and being positive in the transition, etc...It is possible to stay positive for the childs sake...even though you may be hurting deep inside.