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Originally Posted by stevenstwin
the uncle he calls dad. 8:00 in the morning, and he's blind drunk, staggering down mainstreet half dressed (and by that I mean shorts, sandals and a t-shirt on a chilly morning). Honestly, does it make me a bad person if I wish he'd just magically "disappear" so that I wouldn't have to see him? Bah! And I should be WAY past the frustration, but I *just* had a conversation with FS the other day where he was again defending this loser - swearing to me that the guy has quit drinking, found a good job, has a new girlfriend (with which he'll probably make more babies, but I digress...)
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Okay, I have an idea. (Who knows whether or not it will work, but I offer it to you anyway....)
Have you thought about using sorrow when talking about A's uncle/dad to him? I mean, instead of critiquing him outright, maybe dressing it up in sadness, pity and sorrow. "Oh, I saw your uncle this morning at 8:00, it was so cold outside, and he was too drunk to get warm clothes on. It must have been awful for him, I hope he's okay."
The reason I suggest this is that it might get the reality of the situation through to A without engaging his defensive reflexes. Maybe he can see the truth if he doesn't feel like he has to stand up for his relative.
Like I said, this might not work and you might have already tried it with no success. But I thought I'd offer it up anyway....