I think there is a big difference between inhome daycare and preschool... I agree with you, I don't think its okay to pay someone to have your kid watch tv... I mean, you could be doing that yourself, right? For our family and our son, he started preschool 3 mornings a week at the age of 3.5yo. He was ready to listen and follow instructions then; but not at 2. I think at 2yo, you should expect them to be learning how to play nicely with other kids. And really, I don't recall much interactive playing going on between the kids until at least 3yo; at 2yo, they were still doing the parallel play. I see what your husband is saying; 2yo probably cannot and should not be in a "structured learning environment". Children learn by playing. But I also see where you're bothered by paying for your child to watch tv. Maybe switch providers or find a play-based part-time daycare? But keep your expectations in line with age; learning how to share is definitely more important then learning colors at that age
