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Originally Posted by belleinblue1978
They are adults, they have been parenting kiddofor four years now, if they think they STILL can't do it, then why do I need to continually tell them that they can? I'm not doing that til the kid is 18, they need to find some confidence on their own. Just like we always say adoptive parents can't fix firstparent pain, and shouldn't take it on as their own, I can't fix this confidence issue and WON'T take it on as my own, Leight shouldn't need to either.
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I so agree with you. I wish there was an easy solution to fix this. I wish we could all just do our part for the children. I will never understand how aparents can ask so much of a first parent...they have thier own grief & emotions to come to terms with every day.
I totally understand also about the mediation. You need to focus on YOU right now, be gentle with yourself. You are a FABULOUS human being, and a great mother. Don't let them make you doubt that. Your daughter DOES love you. She will ALWAYS have a place in her heart for you...
***I never meant to say that it was her job to give them confidence. At all. I just know that in my situation (reversed, but some what similar...well very slightly) I think it has helped. If there is a slight chance it can mean my son will have connection to his roots, I will do it. Desparation? Maybe.
(((((()))))) You know what to do.
P.s. Iced tea is gross girl, unless of course you forgot to mention the verbs "Long Island" in the front.
I forgot I was in Texas. I might just get shot for saying anything negative about Tea.