[thanksgivingmom]

Sometimes it just gets SO HARD to constantly stroke the ego of your kid's Mom (or parents in others situations). To feel like you have to repeatedly tell them what a great job they're doing or that you won't get a visit or an update. To have to always be careful of every. single. word. you write or say because they have the ultimate carrot on the stick - access to your child.

The sad fact of the matter is that aparents will always have a reason to close or limit an adoptions openness. It won't always be valid to all of us, but they can always claim, "Best interest of the child" and who is to question that?

Certainly not firstparents. We're reminded that we don't know our children and that we don't know what's best for them (of course we did when we placed them with you...)

It frustrates me that Leigh should be expected to ask what she possibly (allegedly) did in the first place. That Supergirl's parents can't be adult enough to explain the "why's" of this decision more clearly.

Please know that this isn't pointed at any of the adoptive parents posting here - or at anything you've said really. It's just that sometimes it becomes TOO MUCH to hear what you've allegedly done wrong...it takes me back to when my first visit kept getting pushed back and back and back. It's always something we did....whether it REALLY is or not, you know? It's a lot to have put on you.

Leigh, I completely understand how you wouldn't be ready for mediation right now. You have to take care of yourself as well, or else you'll be no good to Supergirl.

Love you.