Leigh - I actually think this might be a good idea, again, not because you DID anything, but more so because you are MAKING them tell you what EXACTLY it is that you did (calling out any bs). How all of this is supposably YOUR fault. (thick sarcasm here by the way) How closing this adoption FOR GOOD is supposed to do any good!?! IF your daughter WAS having a hard time, it was probably after you left, and if that is the case they need to just give her some time to process it. We have all been little girls.....we know how fickle we can all be (and how many of times it is due to deep emotion, something that has probably nothing to do with her NOT wanting to see you).
Again...sadly and disgustingly you might have to stroke thier confidence as her parents. YUCK. Yeah...it might take you a while and a few buckets of puke to get you through that.
****p.s. I might be WAAAY off base here too.
Just take everything I say & keep what applies then throw out the rest!
((((i just want to hug you again))))
((((nope better than that I'm going to give you this punching bag))) (see below)
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okay so the above might be a pathetic attmept at a textual punching bag...but you get the point!