[laurablue]

Hi - I'm new here - thanks in advance for your help! My husband and I are working on our homestudy documentation now. A couple years ago we did some IVF cycles (2 fresh, 2 frozen). After my last frozen I decided that I was DONE with medical stuff, and making that decision was so freeing! We've been excited about adoption and are plunging in.

The wrinkle: My sister-in-law, a generous soul with 2 kids of her own, offered to be a surrogate for us, out of the blue. So I called my IVF doctor and he said we have 6 frozen embryos, and since there was never a proven reason why the IVF did not work, we don't know if the issue was my uterus or my eggs. He advised me to try another frozen IVF cycle with ME as the carrier, before even getting involved with surrogacy.

So now I have a dilemma. Do I give up the peace of my decision and dive back into the medical tornado, so that I can try to give my 6 frozen embryos some life? Do I ignore his advice and let my sister-in-law try to be a surrogate for these 6 frozen embryos? Or do I say thanks, but no thanks - we're adopting.

Why would I not try with these frozen ones? Why would I not let my sister-in-law try? Shouldn't I take every chance possible to have our own biological child? I thought I'd answered these questions but now everything from a couple years ago is coming back!

I would appreciate your thoughts.

Thanks!!