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Originally Posted by ocracoke
As an adult adoptee I feel so completely lucky that I was raised by the people I was raised by. It is not that I was adopted but that I some how ended up in the family I was meant to have. However, I do not want anybody telling me that I should feel lucky. I clearly remember as a kid "how lucky you are" to have been adopted. And I hated it. I mean why was I "lucky" to have found my parents through adoption but all my friends were not "lucky" to have found theirs through birth?
I adopted my daughter for purely selfish reasons. I wanted to be a mom! Plain and simple. And even more selfish -- I didn't want to give birth. For me, becoming a parent had nothing to do with charity, it was all about me. Becoming a parent is selfish, being a parent is selfless. My daughter is not a charity case, and I think I can safely say that as she openly defies me at every request (she is 3 years old) that she certainly doesn't feel like a charity case either.
Samantha
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Loved your post!
In many cases adoption DOES = saving a child, in many cases it does not.
I think the point is that even if a particular child was saved from the horrors of being with biofamily, or the horrors of being raised in their native country, what the child DOES't need to be told How lucky they are.
I am so glad your child doesn't feel like a charity case....sounds like a little spitfire who is very confident ....hehe...love it!