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Originally Posted by dpen6
as an adoptee when I was told I "should be grateful in made me feel "less Then" as a child.
Every child desreves a roof over their head and food in their belly. If you are going to put an extra dose on gratefullness on a child just because they are adopted, or adopted internationally I say we all that have bio children do the same thing. But we don't do that, because it is a given that because they were born they will get the basics. THEN they can go on to be ungrateful for other things. Having 5 of my own I see that happening!!! LOL.
We should ALL be grateful for having good parenting, and I am. But let me figure that out for myself. Your children will figure it out for themselves. They DONT need to be told..."see, thats what you COULD have lived with...aren't you LUCKY" Its demeaning.
Yes, all children need to learn gratitude, but not because because of their adopted status.
You would not tell a born to you child..see, your lucky you are breathing because you could have died. Its the same thing.
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Thank you for saying what I was thinking so eloquently. I hate it when people tell me I should be grateful.
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First mom to the amazing Kiddo and adopted adult.
1-4-2009 Mom and I visit Kiddo despite the bad weather. He really loved the blue mittens I made him and even helped me plan my living room. Apparently Hot Wheels wallpapper is the way to go.
2-16-2009 I got a promotion, that comes with a raise. Mom and Dad are visiting and we're going to Al's for pie to celebrate.
4-27-2009 Dad surprises me with a Lady Ugly Stick (an awesome fishing rod that is pink) and a 2nd Iowa Light Artillery Battery jacket. I'm a lucky girl!
5-30-2009 Kiddo turns five. It is hard to believe he is that old already, it seems like just yesterday he was being born. I was at peace for the first time on his birthday, what a nice feeling.
6-13&14 2009 A cannon live fire in Casper WY. We got third place and I got to see Devil's Tower for the first time, it was pretty awesome.
7-4-2009 Amelia the kitten comes to live with me and Liz. Talk about jealousy, Liz will adjust though.
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