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as an adoptee when I was told I "should be grateful in made me feel "less Then" as a child.
Every child desreves a roof over their head and food in their belly. If you are going to put an extra dose on gratefullness on a child just because they are adopted, or adopted internationally I say we all that have bio children do the same thing. But we don't do that, because it is a given that because they were born they will get the basics. THEN they can go on to be ungrateful for other things. Having 5 of my own I see that happening!!! LOL.
We should ALL be grateful for having good parenting, and I am. But let me figure that out for myself. Your children will figure it out for themselves. They DONT need to be told..."see, thats what you COULD have lived with...aren't you LUCKY" Its demeaning.
Yes, all children need to learn gratitude, but not because because of their adopted status.
You would not tell a born to you child..see, your lucky you are breathing because you could have died. Its the same thing.
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