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I agree! A milder version that I think stems from the same sentiment that adoption is a kind of charity is, "Oh, he's so lucky to have you." We get that quite regularly and it bothers me that he's going to hear it. We didn't take him to be charitable - we did it because we wanted to be parents and he was the answer to our prayers. We are the lucky ones.
Is he lucky to be adopted? Lucky to have lost his entire birth family? Lucky to have been taken into foster care at birth? Somehow, no one thinks to comment about how lucky children are who are born into stable families and raised by their birth parents. I know it's a well meaning comment, but children deserve families and loving parents and I never want Daniel to feel that he's supposed to feel grateful for that.
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