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Our DS's birthmom found us through parent profiles online (can I say that here??), her initial contact was via email which after answering her initial quesitions progressed into phone calls, and eventually we met in person.

I do not know how many other people (if any) she contacted. But I would recommend contacting as many people as you need to to find the Paparents that are right for you. Don't worry about saying no if they are not the right people for you. If you would like an open adoption it is super important that you feel like you can have a positive relationship with the paparents you choose.

IF you are looking at profiles online the paparents should be working with either an agency or an attorney. Regardless of which route you go you have the right to have your own attorney if you choose. You should also make sure that you are able to get counseling. In a private adoption these are expenses that I would think that most PAparents would be prepared to pay.

Alternately you could talk to agencies or attorneys yourself and work with only those you are comfortable with.

Oh and remember that even if you 'choose' PAparents, that the real decision is made after your child is born and you can still change your mind about adoption and about the PAparents. .