[enjoyincubus]

So far we have for the most part decided to go with adoption.

I know that many of you out there say that you should talk with someone who is middle aged and gone through it, if you have, I would LOVE to hear from you and your experiences.

We have been looking at parent profiles of adoptive parents, but i'm not sure how any of it works. How do you contact multiple families before making a choice on one? I think it will be hard to contact a family and then say no.

Once you contact the family how does a private adoption work (from what i've heard agencies are really pushy)... do I need a lawyer?

I really don't know anything about adoption processes, so any information that you could provide me would be so helpful in this time of need.