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Originally Posted by jalapeno
Ok, here's a spinoff from Supamodel's thread which got me thinking today.
Question for all of you: Do you enjoy sharing your adoption story and talking to others about adoption (when the subject happens to come up)? Others being people that you kind of know but aren't too close / mere acquaintances.
I don't particularly mind that people know we adopted. Anyone paying attention will figure it out anyway since my boys are only 4 months apart in age. But I really try to avoid talking about very much beyond that. And so I tend to avoid bringing up the adoptions since I don't want any follow up questions. The adoption process itself was incredibly emotionally difficult for us. And I definitely don't think it's anybody's business that our children were in the foster system - it just seems like some people are so judgemental about foster children. I occasionally meet people who have also adopted or are thinking about it. But even then I just don't enjoy the topic. I LOVE talking about my kids of course. And I love talking about the ways in which they're different from me and speculating about what they'll be like when they're older. I don't mind talking about adoption as a part of who they are. But I don't like talking about the adoption process.
On the other hand, so far it seems to work best for me to be up front about my boys' ages and our adoptions when someone asks. More often than not that's the end of the discussion. Whereas if I'm in a snippy mood and try to avoid saying the obvious then sometimes people will really push the issue.  |
Since everyone we know was aware of our plans to adopt ds out of his foster care situation, everyone knew he was adopted.
I try not to let it be the first thing new people know about him, though. Sometimes when I see that an adult needs to adjust how they are working/interacting with him, I will share some of our story.
We are happy and proud of our son--but he is getting older and soon it will need to be his choice to share.