We adopted an 8 mo old and I feel that had its own set of issues but then babies do. She wasnt a good sleeper and now she has been diagnosed with Mild Cp. It was hard but I love her more than I can say.. She is great.
Then we adopted a 4 yr old and like most have said it has its own set of issues. She was emotional about leaving her foster mother more than anything so that was very hard. She attached easily to us but for me having a 4 yr old follow you everywhere for 5 months was hard. I could not walk around a corner without her crying and worrying. It was understandable but it was very hard for me.. I needed 5 minutes alone just to go to the bathroom.. plus the language issue. Now 2 yrs later.. she sleeps alone.. goes to school... language is awesome and she seems very well adjusted and fits right in. Its just that first yr was hard for us.. plus discipline was hard at first but we found the more firm we were about things the better. I think either one has risks but I wouldnt trade my girls for anything.
Becky