[connorsmommy1999]

all of the children who have been adopted from our hogar have been older. We have an email list and there are a lot of success stories - I would suggest looking for an email list specific to older child international adoption....it's a terrific way to get a lot of answers and viewpoints.

I am not sure that anyone would call it 'easy'. One mom said that she has bio children and two adopted at an older age. She said that having babies/toddlers is hard, it's exhausting keeping up.....having older adopted kids is equally as hard and exhausting but in a very different way. She talked about how with babies you're physically pushed to your limits (lack of sleep, chasing after them etc)...with older adopted children it's more of a mental game. I laughed when she said she'd done it the right way: had bio kids in her early 20's when she could physically keep up...then did older child adoptions at late 30's early 40's when she knew a LOT more about parenting and had more time to keep up with the mental task.

talking with a lot of parents who have 'been there,done that' has helped me a LOT. My daughter isnt here yet but I feel like I have a lot of info, a lot of support and a lot more understanding than I would have received had I only been reading books.