[bmomto2_momto2]

I took a course a few semesters ago on adoption. It was taught by a mother/daughter team. The mother operates an adoption agency (for the tough to place children) and the daughter is an adoption attorney. The daughters advice was... "tell your sons, etc. to register with the putative father registry each and every time they have relations with a girl of child-bearing age". She said that as it doesn't matter if a woman outright lies about her pregnancy (i.e. refusing to tell she is pregnant and avoiding the father and his contacts)... the courts will always terminate the parental rights. I went home and told my son that even if precautions are used, and even if he is not sure he is ready to be a father, if he has relations with any girl who can bear children and he doesn't want to just lose his rights (versus consenting to terminate them) then he needs to sign up each and every time. Even that adoption attorney says she has instructed her son to do so. That is sad that men would have to do that. I do realize there are times when it is better for the child to never know that father; however in those instances a good attorney (which most adoptive parents or agencies can afford to retain) will be able to terminate his rights anyway.