This is where I'm philosophically torn...
Yeah, brown, you definitely got the "but what if he's a big jerk?" scenario.
But I do know that he was ultimately told, and before the adoption was completed.
In theory, I think we all want everyone to have equal rights and responsibilties...but in practice, I think there are situations where a woman judges that the father of her unborn is not a fit father and uses her judgment as a mother to do what she believes to be in the best interests of the child, even if it means denying the man his due process...because the child's welfare is judged to be more important than his rights. (I think this is what you're saying TG?...correct me if I'm wrong.)
See as much as I am glad hubby asserted his rights and would want J to assert his (hopefully there will never be a need to)...if I were pregnant and carrying a child in my belly, but I knew that I messed up big time in my choice of partner and I believed the guy in question would be a horrible father- I don't know if I could set aside my judgment for what I wanted for my child in favor of the man's rights to be notified and asked for consent.
Granted, it's absolutely possible to use that power (to withhold information) vindictively, foolishly or unfairly. And I'm sure it happens. But it can also be used to protect a child from what a mother would judge to be an unhealthly situation.